When a man is in love with a woman

By P Mutuma

When a man is genuinely in love with a woman, he makes it known. He doesn’t leave her guessing because he wants to secure her heart and let her know she belongs to him. His conversations go deeper than just physical desires — he engages her soul, her mind, her spirit. He cannot stand when she speaks negatively about herself, because why would the Queen he loves tear down the crown he treasures?

A man in love will live in transparency, opening up so she knows she can trust him. Her peace matters more to him than his pride. He protects her — even from himself, his family, and his friends if he has to. He works hard to make her proud, because her admiration fuels his fire. He will distance himself from anything or anyone that makes her uncomfortable, because her comfort is his priority.

He values her counsel and listens to her opinion, and even if he doesn’t always agree, he responds with love and respect. He leans on her strength, allowing her to be there for him, because he knows she is part of his purpose. He makes time, no matter how little, and if he can’t, he communicates clearly — because no woman in love should ever feel like she is competing with his schedule.

When he hurts her, he feels it deeply, and he is quick to apologize. He strives to become better in the areas she points out — he may not be perfect, but his effort will be undeniable. Her battles become his battles, her victories his victories, because love binds them as one. He seeks to understand her wounds and will stand with her through healing. He does not shrink her growth — he challenges her to rise, to become even greater.

A man in love waters his woman with words of life, praise, and affirmation. He puts down his ego, willing to serve her, because her smile is his reward. And above all, he loves her in a way that honors God — because he knows she is His creation, a divine gift entrusted to his care.