By P Mutuma
One of the hardest emotional battles is when your heart holds on to someone your mind has already let go of.
It’s that tug-of-war between what you know and what you feel, your mind screams to walk away, but your heart keeps whispering reasons to stay.
Your thoughts remind you of every red flag:
The lies, the manipulation, the nights you cried yourself to sleep wondering if it was your fault.
You replay the silence, the gaslighting, the weight of loving someone who made you question your worth. Your mind wants healing.
Your mind wants peace. But your heart… it still remembers the soft moments.The comfort in their arms.The laughter. The late-night talks that felt like forever.
It’s confusing how can one person be both your safe place and your source of pain?
You find yourself stuck in loops: pulling away, then missing them again. Letting go, then wondering if you made a mistake.”Maybe it wasn’t that bad, “Maybe I was too sensitive.”
But deep down, you know love shouldn’t feel like a battlefield. Love shouldn’t cost you your peace, your clarity, or your self-worth.
And yet, the emotional bond doesn’t break overnight. It lingers like a scent in your room—faint, but familiar. Some days you ache. Some days you’re angry. Some days, both.
But eventually, your clarity starts to outweigh your confusion.You begin to realize: peace isn’t found in people who break you. And missing someone doesn’t mean they’re meant to stay.
You learn that loving yourself enough to walk away is not weakness, it’s strength.
Because sometimes the heart takes a little longer to catch up to what the soul already knows: you deserve better than almost love
